Motherhood is so special. I’m writing this post Mother’s Day because I’ve had some time to reflect. I’m a very strong reflector in all areas, personally, spiritually and professionally. This Mother’s Day it had me thinking about so many things. I remember telling Colin I did not want the day to end. The amount of times I kissed Corbin was uncountable. When I would lay him down for a nap I didn’t want to let go. I felt so thankful to be a mom, even more grateful God gave me the gift of motherhood.
To be honest, I would not be the mom I am today without my own amazing mother. My mom is an amazing mother who dedicates her life to others around her. She was selfless yet strong- and the most beautiful woman I know. I’m so thankful for my own mom who has taught me to be the best mom I can be to Corbin.
After time to reflect, I thought I’d write a little different blog post. These are a mock letters addressed to all the moms out there, moms to be, and moms in the waiting.
Let me just start to say, YOU ARE ENOUGH. You are the BEST mom to your baby, toddler, child, teenager, or adult. There are times where you think you are not doing a good job or you have guilt for not doing enough. That voice making you feel insecure is evil. Push it away. If you are struggling with breastfeeding, let me just say you need to give yourself grace. Your little one will not remember if they were breastfed or bottle fed. They will remember if you showed up to a ball game or run in the mud with them. You are the BEST mom for your little one.
If you’re struggling with finding time. Especially with being a working mom, you don’t want to ignore your kiddo telling you, “Mommy play with me. Mommy please come here” right in the middle of an important work task. I get it, working from home and being a mom is hard work. It makes you feel guilty at times. Just explain to them that being with them is your favorite thing in the world. Explain to them that mommy has to work just like they have to go to school or do school work. Just taking a few seconds to let them in on this and help them understand that mommy and daddy have jobs too, but that you still love them is so key. Finding time with your little ones can be hard, but so doable. Find creative ways to connect with your kids during the day is what will stand out in their little eyes. It’s the little things you do that matter most.
Of course, Corbin is not old enough to talk and tell me those things. I try really hard to be aware of it. When I’m working from home, these same feelings of “not doing enough” would find their way into my mind. In this season I spent a lot of time focusing on balance. Nap time is when I get things done. Whether it was folding laundry, cleaning house, writing my blog or teaching at home—that was my time. It was important I keep myself creatively fed during the day, so I never let myself be filled with feelings of discontent. I hope if you’re in this season now you’ll take the time to allow yourself a few minutes a day to do what you love, too. I found it is the thing that kept me balanced and energized.
Lastly, the moment you don’t think you are enough or you could be a better mom. STOP those thoughts in their tracks. Switch your thinking and say to yourself… you are enough! Ignore the mom guilt or the mom shaming. We are in this together.
Dear the Mom to be,
Pregnancy. Ugh it can be a love hate kind of thing. You love that you are growing a baby, but the dreaded morning sickness, excessive tiredness, waves of emotions, the horrible smells around you (yes it’s a real thing), body aches, awkward body changes, y’all I know the list could go on. Personally, I was not a huge fan of being pregnant. I enjoyed child birth more than being pregnant. The way your body changes is amazing, but gosh it’s mentally hard too.
Mom to be, just know you are not alone. I struggled with my body changing and the scale number going up and up. Every mom has a hard time with that, I don’t care who you are. Different stages of pregnancy is weird. Your body is doing weird things and you just feel blah all the time. Clothes don’t fit and you feel like a balloon. If you aren’t there yet, I promise you will be. Once you get closer to your due date you’ll be longing to get that baby out!
Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but it’s hard. Eating changes, cravings are everywhere and you find yourself on an emotional roller coaster. The biggest piece of advice I could give to a mom to be is you are creating a human inside. Give your body grace. It’s 100% worth all the aches and pains. Pretty soon you’ll have a baby in your arms and that is so beautiful. You are beautiful and it will get better, I promise!
My heart to you…
My heart goes out to you all who are longing to be a mom. I’d be wrong to sit here and say I understand. I don’t, but what I do know is God has a plan and you are not alone! I have done some research and the percentage of infertility and miscarriages is much higher than people think. So many of my friends have either struggled to get pregnant or have experienced a loss. No matter the case, I can’t image how hard it is. My heart goes out to you all and praying for you. The powder of prayer is so strong. I have faith that God has a plan and I know He loves you so!
This whole post really is something I’ve longed to write. We are all in different stages of motherhood, soon to be momhood, or are hopeful to be. Whatever the case is, we are in this together! We have all something to give each other. That commonality is the love. We all have love to give. We are in this together and all here to support each other.
Love from Texas,