With Mother’s Day being this Sunday, today I wanted to do a special Mother’s Day post in honor of this very special day. I’m so excited to be celebrating my first Mother’s Day!! This day means so much to me, not only because I get to show how much my mom means to me, but I get to celebrate the best gift God has given me. I can’t express how much joy I get from being a mom. I’ve always wanted to be a mom, since I was a little girl and I know God set me out to be a great mom too!
Motherhood is the most important job that I was called to do on this earth. I will say, now that I’m officially a mom, motherhood has a whole new meaning and appreciation. Motherhood has changed me for the better and has taught me so much about life, God, and myself.
In honor of my first Mother’s Day, I want to share the most important things that I have learned while being Corbin’s mommy. Some of these things, were either taught to me by my own mother or things I have learned along the way. I also hope to pass down these things to all my kids one day too. (Yes I said all my kidS- we want more kiddos. Just not this exact moment in time! haha) Okay, let’s get started…
Time with God.
SinceCorbin was born, my relationship with God has grown. I sing worship music daily with him, I read bible verses and his little bible aloud, and my prayer time with the Lord has been stronger than ever! Corbin is already seeing his parents actively participate in the church community and time spent time in a bible study group. I have learned that being a model of God’s love is just as important and being a believer in God.
Deep down, I know God gave me Corbin to not only be an amazing mother, but to raise Corbin to love Jesus too. My hope for Corbin is that I can teach him that it’s impossible to have a real, growing, intimate relationship with God without spending time with Him.
I love my Bible study / quiet times in the morning, just me and God. During that time, I give thanks to God for this amazing little boy. It’s the best way to start my day, my ultimate source of peace, and truly keeps me grounded. I pray that starting at a young age, Corbin will also love spending time with Jesus and long to know Him in a real and personal way! I also hope that that Corbin grows a strong relationship with the Lord, just like he has helped me grow stronger in my faith too.
Family comes first.
I did not grow up with a large family, but I did grow up with a large group of family friends. We considered those friends like family and even celebrated major holidays with them. Time spent with family and our family-friends was always important and valued. Now as a mom, this continues to be important to me and even more important that I model it for Corbin. I’ve been so blessed to be surrounded with a large group of God-loving friends here in Texas and luckily they’re all moms too. (Double win!) I learned that having a group of genuine moms in your circle of friends is key. They become your rock. Since we don’t have immediate family in Texas, those people have become our “Texas family.”
Making time for family is number one. Even though our mediate families are states apart, we find it a priority to start our traditions with our family here in Texas too, including our family friends. I believe that when you find the RIGHT people that you trust, can depend on and ones who won’t criticize you are the right friends to surround yourself with. When you do, it helps make you a better you and a better mom too!
I hope I pass this value down to Corbin! I hope to teach him how important family is and family friends. We should always do our best to prioritize and serve each other well.
Trust your Instincts.
Trusting your mama instinct is a real thing. I learned from the start with Corbin that there’s something about the saying, “Mama knows Best!” It’s so true, as a mom you go into “mama bear mode” and you just know what is right for your baby. It’s had to explain if you aren’t in this journey yet, but there’s something so magical about it. Trusting your mama heart is so important because it can make a huge difference in your baby’s health, your own health and could even save your little one’s life. I had to trust my mama heart super early on (day 5) when I knew something wasn’t quite right. Looking back, the holy spirit was overwhelming me to call the nurse on call about a sleep question, which led us taking a rectal temperature. The temp. was dangerously low, which ended up in Children’s Hospital for three days. You just never know the situation at hand, but trusting your instincts is important. You know what your baby needs and you must listen to your instinct.
Another incident was over the whole mental debate if I should continue breastfeeding or go to 100% formula. I go this journey in depth on the Fed is Best blog post. Long story short, I knew Corbin was so much happier bottle fed. He was eating more than I was producing. My mom gut was telling me to keep going with breastfeeding, which quickly spiraled into a depressing black hole. I had to trust what was right and do what was best for my baby. Happy baby = happy mama!
TIP: You do you mama and trust yourself. Don’t worry about what others think or how they will perceive you as a mom. You are the best mom for your baby and no one can tell you otherwise. Give yourself grace. Your baby will thank you later if you are a happy mom.
Laugh and let go.
I can’t express this one enough! Laughing during hard times helps so much. When I’ve been peed on twice while changing a dirty poopy diaper… you just have to laugh and let it go. When Corbin cries for no apparent reason, you have to laugh and let it go! When Corbin has a poop explosion and I didn’t realize and it wound up EVERYWHERE in the car. I laughed harder and fought even harder to let it go. Being a mom, I have learned that sweating the small stuff isn’t worth my time and that laughter is the best and sometimes only medicine.
It’s okay to not be okay.
This is a hard one to get your mind wrapped around. Since being a mom, I learned that I’m not alone. There’s so many other moms out there who have gone through similar struggles. IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY!
When I look at Corbin I’m reminded every day how remarkable that little one is. But sometimes it’s all a lot. Being his mom is the greatest, most liberating experience of my life—but it can be lonely, worrisome, exhausting, challenging, and heartbreaking. Flip side, Corbin has taught me that there is peace in between. Sitting in the rocking chair rocking him as he cries bloody murder, I’m reminded that his arrays of emotions are okay, and I know it’s okay for me to do the same.
Stop comparing & worrying about others opinions.
To this day, I still struggle comparison and worrying about what others think of me. It’s a toxic cycle that’s hard to break. However, since being a mom, I have learned that if I continue to compare I will never grow myself. If I continue to worry about what the mom across the street thinks of me as a mom, I’ll continue circling in the same dangerous circle. Before Corbin, I’m guilty of being the worst at comparison. I’m not a verbal comparer, if that makes sense. I tend to compare silently in my mind. I also would continue getting wrapped up in the fear of others opinions on me. Of course, I’m still a work in progress… but Corbin has taught me that it’s not worth the energy. You don’t see babies worrying about this stuff, so why should we?
Being Corbins mom I have learned to stop comparing your growth, to stop comparing my marriage, to my recovery and my postpartum experience. It can be difficult to disconnect and remember that all of the perfect parenting images that surround us are just that—images. But you—Corbin have taught me to let that go. As a mom, I continue to be reminded of that again every day when Corbin accomplishes a new milestone. I’m learning just like my baby is learning.
Take care of you!
During the last two weeks of my pregnancy I had to be bed rested for high blood pressure. I hated every moment of it because I had to take off work early to just sit at home and do nothing. It was miserable because I’m the type to be going none stop. With that, I had to learn quickly to be still. I remember my mom telling me that I need to put my oxygen mask on before I can put on others oxygen mask. She continued to tell me that during the first month with Corbin. It’s so true. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
Being a mom is pure exhausting. Cleaning the house, doing endless loads of laundry, picking up toys, folding tiny shirt and pants, rocking a crying baby to sleep for hours and always trying to navigate your baby is exhausting. I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t I’ll be honest, sometimes I feel guilt for taking an hour or two away from Corbin every day, I know it’s necessary. I can’t give 100% of myself. I need at least 10% for me and my own self care. As a mom, I learned that I can’t give my best if I don’t feel the best version of myself. At the end of the day, if I take a moment to workout, shower and put clean clothes on I can give so much better to my son.
Corbin is our light and joy. He is our little blessing in our lives. I have loved being his mom. He has taught me more than I think I can ever teach him. I can’t wait to share all the things he has taught me through Motherhood. Everyday that I watch him explore, move and learn is my greatest joy. Being a mom is the best gift God can ever give me. I’m so lucky to be Corbin’s mommy! This Mother’s Day is so special to me, words just can’t quite express.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing mamas, heaven mamas, soon to be mamas or hope to be moms out there! You are LOVED.
Love from Texas,