Being a new mom is HARD! I’m right in that season. It’s amazing how quickly I learn about myself, my baby and just life in general. I will say that I’m no expert, nor is it always easy for me. I struggle too! I have really reflected and thought about what kind of advice I’d give a new mom or a new mom to be. If you are already a mom, these are always good reminders too. I hope it gives a mom out there hope that you ARE a good mom and you ARE doing a great job!! #momlifeisthebestlife
7 things you need to hear as a mom!
If it’s not a problem for you, then it’s not a problem. Moms out there will tell all the stories and more. You’ll hear everything from great advice to horror stories. I’ve learned from personal experience, don’t make their story yours. Moms will tell you all the advice and the ways to go about things and I can promise you it’s easy to start questioning yourself. Don’t let the others get inside your head. There was a time I was in a store and the shop girl told me that I can leave my baby in the walkway to look at clothes that I should always have him by my 100% of the time. Let me tell you, I thought she was a nut at first, but then I started to question myself. Listen, I was going three steps, he was fine. As long as it’s not a matter of safety, find what works for you and don’t let others make you insecure about it.
Don’t turn the little things into big things. You know all the laundry that’s piled up or the dishes in the sink? Let it be. Those little things are so small in the grand scheme of things. Or the time you didn’t shower or forgot to brush your teeth because you have a crying baby on you. At the end of the day you won’t remember those things. You will only remember the little ball of joy that you have.
Parenting is a full time job. Being a mom (or dad) is HARD! Babies don’t come with a manual. You could read all the books, listen to podcasts, you name it, but at the end of the day you will learn most with just learning from your baby. I have found that “studying” what your baby likes and learning directly from him/her is the best practice there is. As a parent, you’re practice new techniques, problem solving, and use critical thinking as a parent just as you would any other job.
This too shall pass. There are tough times with navigating this new life with a newborn. It’s hard, but amazing all at the same time…there’s no doubt about that. Your routines are completely screwed up, if any routine at all. Whatever the struggle might be at the time, just know that it will pass. Every stage of a child’s life there will be something difficult. Just know it will pass and you will get through it. Prayer is powerful in this time.
Ask for help and find your crew. The best advice I could give a new mom is don’t feel ashamed to ask for help! There are people out there in your circle who are willing to help. I can tell you that you can’t do it all, it’s okay to step aside and having someone else help. You are never going to be a burden to someone if you ask them to come over and watch your little one while you take a shower or take a nap. It’s important that you ask for help, you are STILL a good mom for doing so. Having a support system is essential for getting through the hard days. Personally, I have loved having a crew of moms in my circle because I can fall on them for advice. You don’t have a crew of moms, then attend a mommy group in your area. They are all out there and will be supportive with open arms. We have all been through it or are currently going through it too!
Accept the wide range of emotions. It’s not only OKAY to cry and feel emotional as a new mom, but NORMAL. Yes, that’s right – NORMAL! I have cried more times than I can count on my hands. I always tell myself, this phase will pass, but don’t feel guilty for being emotional, crying, getting frustrated, etc. There’s no shame in not being able to heal ourselves – sometimes our bodies don’t self-regulate and bounce back by themselves, and that’s okay. Do what YOU need to do to make you a happy mama. Happy mama=happy baby!
Live in the moment. Social media has made me more aware of how precious life and time is, as I see news stories and even tragedies from those I know who lose children, parents, or others who are close to them. It’s so sad to hear about those cases! I try each day to put my phone down and just BE with my baby. Time is too fast and before I know it he will be walking. Any day that we are all healthy, taken care of, and together is a good day. Take it in!!
Being a mom is the best thing ever and I couldn’t imagine my life any other way! I love hearing from all you mamas out there. We are in this together and here to support each other through the thick and thin. Just know there’s never judgement as a mom, mom guilt shouldn’t ever be a thing. Sadly, it is and we just need to continue to uplift each other!
If y’all have new mom advice, comment below I’d love to hear!
Love from Texas,