Motherhood is hard. H A R D! However, nothing is more rewarding than being a mom. In the early days everyone told me, “It gets better, don’t worry it gets better.” I remember how it was hard to believe that. Now that Corbin is almost 6 months, it does get easier! Flip side, every stage comes with different challenges. There’s so many hard obstacles new moms go through, and during Covid it’s even harder! Here’s my the top challenges and “stressers” new moms can expect to face, and how you can get through it all in one piece.
It’s a real thing. I really struggle with mom anxiety… will my baby get sick? Is the friend or family member holding him going to get him sick or get covid? Will he choke? Am I doing this right? What if I mess up? Am I going to do something wrong? What if I go somewhere with him and I get him exposed to Covid? Is traveling a bad idea? Is he breathing? Has a friend or family member holding him clean? What germs are on that? Is it safe? Is he eating enough? I mean the list goes on… the “what-if” game is so toxic! Mom anxiety is a real thing. I will be honest, I had to go on medicine to help me because it became too much for me to cope. What helps me with anxiety with Corbin is pray and remind myself that God will protect him, God will bless him and God will never fail him.
Mama Bear Mode
To this day it’s hard for me to let go. I struggle with others holding Corbin for a long period of time. I can’t tell you why, I’m just convinced it’s something in me that needs my baby at times. Protective Mama Bear mode is a real thing.
Y’all this is a big struggle of mine that I’m working on. When we had family in town and I would just sit upstairs and cry because it was so hard to share my baby with other people, even my husband. I just always felt like I needed to hold him and be with him. What helped me cope was telling myself, “Corbin needs other people. Corbin needs his daddy just as much as me. Let others love him.” I found it helpful to keep telling myself that Corbin needs this, Corbin needs this over and over.
Even in the beginning when he was 5 days old I remember my body would shake uncontrollably if I was not holding him. It was the weirdest feeling. But this is a REAL thing!
The moment Corbin was born, I wanted to have control. control over this health, the amount of milk he ate, what he did, who he was with, just about everything. I quickly was reminded that I can not control everything and I can only be his mom. God is the only one who can control Corbin. Prayer helps me a lot when it comes to the need for control.
The faster I can let go of that control the better Corbin will be. I don’t want to be that “controlling mom” he needs to learn himself too! I can only be a guide and mom. But gosh it’s hard, I’m so protective. It goes back to coping with anxiety. The times when I find myself being a control freak, a lot of the times that situation is what Corbin needs. It’s hard to step back, but having TRUST early on is so important. TRUST God, TRUST your baby!
You’re a Rookie
New mom life is a roller coaster. Everything is new, your baby is new, your life is on a new high… the list goes on. As a mom, there’s contant have ups and downs, your hormones are raging and sleep deprivation is a real thing. Oh and don’t get me started on the countless google searches. At the end of the day, all you want for your baby is the best. A dear friend of my gave me the best and eye opening advice, “You are the BEST mom for your baby.” That saying constantly goes on replay in my head, especially during hard days.
What helps me is NOT googling, but to find a group of other moms who have been through the stage you’re in. Other moms are a great support system. You need other moms to help you and to lift you up when you need it.
Trust me, I don’t have this mom thing figured out, no one does. It’s hard, challenging, rewarding, tiring, emotional, never ending, always changing, the best gift ever and so much more! For all you moms out there, remember you are enough, it’s okay to feel the way you are feeling, you’re not alone, other moms are here for you and you are the best mom for your baby! Not all superheros wear capes, you mom are a superhero!
I found this image and thought it was such a good reminder on days where you feel like you’re drowning.
Mamas, we are in this together!
Love from Texas,