Y’all can you believe Corbin is already 1 month old?! I feel like pregnancy drug on / took FOREVER, but now that Corbin is here time is just flying by. Which is especially weird considering I’m not sleeping so you’d think the days would drag on haha. I just wanted to share a quick little update on how life with a newborn is going so far, now that we are 1 month in!
Day 1-4 Adjustment period
To start, taking care of a newborn is HARD WORK. Learning how to be a mom is hard work. With all the hormones flowing, crying will be your new everyday. (just watch it and be open to talking about how you feel.) Now I fully understand why maternity leave is 100% necessary because it is more than a full time job. I knew going into it we’d be sleep deprived, but I thought days would be pretty easy/manageable because babies sleep so much during the day. This isn’t the case every day, sometimes your baby will be great at sleeping and other days not so much. They go through growth spurts and can be super cranky etc. Corbin is pretty good at napping which is great. But when he does nap, I either try to get a little sleep, or wash my hair, or remember to feed myself haha. So, I’m not really getting a ton done around here at this point – which I know is completely fine. So to be real with y’all: yes, we’ve definitely had our moments of frustration and total sleep deprivation over here!
Day 5 The hardest
On day 5, I called the nurse after hours at our doctor’s office asking a question regarding his sleep. Babies sleep on their backs because back is best! However, I had noticed Corbin turning a little to his side during the night. As a new mom, I was worried. When I called the nurse, they required a rectal temp. Keep in mind we have never done this, the package wasn’t even open yet. When we took his temp, it was 94.7, which is concerned SUPER low. She had us warm him up for an hour and call back. After an hour, is was 96, which for his age is dangerous. We had to take him to Children’s in Fort Worth.
This was the scariest experience for a new mom to go through. I was hormonal, tired, recovering from a c-section and just an emotional wreck. When we admitted him he dropped a 1 pound, which put him at 5lbs 6 oz. It was so scary! We learned that protocol for a newborn with a low or high temp was to treat as if there’s an infection, until proven not. This was so scary for us to see him go all the pain at such a young age. The hardest part was watching the nurses struggling to get the IV started. They poked him three times and failed so they called the IV team to administer. His veins were so small and kept collapsing. Finally they were successful. They took a ton of blood work, a urine sample, flu/RSV swab, and a spinal tap. I did not stay in the room for the spinal because I couldn’t handle it.
During our ER experience my body wouldn’t stop shaking and I couldn’t stop crying. The nurses called the Child Life Specialist to help me process and talk through everything. I will say, the nurses, doctors and child life specialist were INCREDIBLE. We stayed for two nights and three days. The whole stay was emotionally brutal, especially since I was experiencing some post traumatic stress from when I was in the hospital as a kid. I did not want him to go through all this pain, pokes and jabs. He’s only 5 days old, how could this happen?
I will say, I grew tremendously in my faith and grew closer to God. I remember prayer non-stop during our stay at Children’s Hospital. We are so beyond lucky that he did not have an infection and it was just a fluke. The doctors and nurses were INCREDIBLE and took amazing care of us as parents. We had a ton of support and I had the opportunity to learn new techniques for feeding from the NICU lactation consultants. I will say, we were so beyond blessed to have been taken care of so well. I just hope we don’t see that place again!
Day 6+ Growing periods
After our hospital scare things got better. The only downside was he caught a cold from all the antibiotics that depleted his system. Let me just say, they don’t tell you that part of it! Luckily, it resolved with the help of the nose Frida and cool mist humidifier.
About every other week, he went through a growth spurts. Woof! Growth spurts either had him wide awake, eating a ton or fighting to sleep. We are still feeding him every 3 hours and during the night we try to shoot for a 4 hour stretch.
From the beginning, Corbin struggled with low birth weight according the the growth charts. Thus, we’ve been using formula to help him gain more weight. For babies who are lower weight scale the pedi has you come in frequently for weight checks. The best weight check visit we had, he gained a pound in one week. I will have to thank the formula for that!
Life as a Mom & Dad
I read the book Moms on Call and also took the newborn class from Taking Cara Babies and would highly recommend both courses! Taking Cara Babies has tons of helpful tips as far as soothing your baby, naptime tips, and tons more. Moms On Call has helped us (try) to get on somewhat of a schedule. Corbin is still so little so we’re definitely still in the practicing stages over here. But I think he’s definitely making progress!
The hardest part about this stage for me is 100% the lack of sleep and the anxiety. Even on Corbin’s best nights of sleep, we still have to feed him every 3 hours (from the start of one feeding, to the start of another), and the feeding / changing process takes about 45 mins…so the longest stretch we get at night is about an hour and a half. Then when morning comes it’s a hit or miss if he sleep and if I have things I need to do around the house. Just being real with y’all – the lack of sleep is HARD. Plus, on top of that struggling with anxiety is not easy!
My mom and Dad came and stayed with us the first week after Corbin was born, and then Colin’s parents came after that which was super helpful. Now we are back to life just the 3 of us (4 including Gracie Jo!). We have a pretty sweet setup with me on maternity leave and Colin having two weeks off, plus one week he worked from home. Colin has been super helpful with Corbin and also with taking care of the house or making all the bottles. I would definitely be losing my mind right now if it weren’t for his help.
As far as my body / recovery goes – things are going really well! I stopped bleeding somewhere during week 4 I think? It got super light as time went on. I did not expect that with a c-section, but it still happens. At times my incision will hurt or pinch. It will more so if I over do it. I haven’t started working out yet (probably won’t get back into a workout routine until the 6 week mark) I also try to go for a mile walk with Corbin everyday if the weather is nice!
Having Corbin has helped me put / keep things in perspective tremendously. Right now, he is my priority. Taking care of him, loving him, staring at him, holding him…that is my first priority. After that, I’m doing my best to still take care of my own body. No matter what post partum stress or worry I have, my love for him trumps all of it.
Having said all of that…this past month has also felt like a total dream and the biggest blessing in the world, which might sound weird given how challenging it’s been haha. My heart is daily just overwhelmed with the love I feel for Corbin. I still can’t believe that he is MY BABY. WHAT A BLESSING.